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There is no shame in bedwetting

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There is no shame in bedwetting

We may not want to talk too much about bed wetting but it’s a normal part of growing up.

A child sleeping in a bed

As most parents should know, bedwetting is normal. We may not want to talk too much about it, but bladder training and toilet training are a normal part of growing up. It’s just like learning to walk and being able to write your own name.

How common is it? We went to the Continence Foundation of Australia for the answer and discovered that bed wetting – technically nocturnal enuresis – is very common, with approximately 1 in 5 children in Australia wetting the bed.

So at 1 in 5, children who wet the bed is a fairly normal phenomenon, right? So why is there still so much shame around bladder control or a lack of it?

 

Empathy in children

Two children sat on a Brolly Sheets product

Every parent knows that small differences can mean the world to a child, both good and bad. If you have ever seen a child blatantly eyeing up the biggest piece of cake you will know what we mean. They are transparent in their greed, attention seeking and demands – they just don’t know it.

Equally, because empathy is a later part of the development process, children can quickly use another’s weakness to their advantage without understanding its impact. If you have seen that same child eyeing up the biggest piece of cake, and then turn to a different family member such as from Mummy to Granny in search of a positive answer, you will know what we mean. They naturally know who might let them get away with thing and who won’t.

The most difficult situation however is when children sense weakness in another child. Mummy and Granny can see what’s going on but other children can’t, and they can’t easily self-moderate. In other words, without empathy or moderation, children can be downright nasty to each other. And bedwetting is just the sort of weakness that makes for an easy target.

Avoid shaming at all costs

A smiling child lying on a bed

So our advice is twofold. Firstly, shaming a bedwetting child seems to have little by way of a positive result and tends to prolong the bedwetting. So there’s no need to punish your child for something they are not doing on purpose. Of course you want them to be a big boy or girl, but if you create a strong sense of shame, the chances are they will carry that shame with them and other children can pick up on it.

Secondly, don’t hide the problem. Or at least if you hide it, hide it in plain sight. Secrecy can add to shame and that is the very thing you as a parent are trying to avoid. That is why our Brolly Sheet Bed Pads and waterproof bedding is designed to be seen. No more industrial and shamefully crinkly under sheets. Instead, quiet comfort with attractive designs.

Our Brolly Sheets bed pads are so easy to replace that depending on the age of your child, they can help or even do it by themselves. This level of convenience means a minimum of fuss, and a far less tense parent – all helping to reduce shameful feelings that do so much harm for kids who wet the bed.

Be sure to take a look through the full Brolly Sheets shop and find a host of possible options to help support your child as they become fully toilet trained and enjoy more dry nights.

Take a look too at our shipping and delivery information, and if you have questions, just get in touch with the Brolly Sheets team. We will be happy to help.