You will not have much luck getting your child toilet trained if they are not ready.
It can be difficult to know when the best time is to start night time toilet training for your child.
There is no specific date or time to start – it’s really up to your parental intuition and child’s physiological (bladder and bowel control), cognitive and verbal developmental stages. The child’s emotional and social awareness will also play a role, as will their individual needs.
It is helpful to be aware of your own and your partner’s childhood bed wetting history. It might seem like a very long time ago, but if you and/or your partner wet the bed later into childhood, it is more likely your own child will.
Generally, most children have control over their bladders in the daytime by the age of 3 and girls seem quicker to adapt than boys. At night it takes a little longer to get to grips with staying dry, as the child can have limited bladder awareness while asleep. This is because the hormone that sends signals to the kidneys to delay urine production while resting develops in children at different ages, sometimes younger and sometimes older.
This means that during their development, your child will be either physically capable of holding their urine and waking up to wee, or they won't be.
If your child is still waking up wet every morning, he or she is not ready to be in underwear and that’s fine – that's simply the stage they are at. Some kids can day train at 2 and still be in pull-ups at 5 or 6. It's just the way they are made and every kid is different. Do not be too concerned if your toddler wets the bed because most children under the age of 5 still urinate in their sleep and one in ten younger primary school children do so.
Doctors consider bed wetting normal until about 7-8 years old. After that point, they will sometimes check to see if there are other reasons for bed wetting. These might include things like infections, diabetes, or other potential causes.
How to tell when your child is ready for night time toilet training
So how can you tell if your child is ready to take that next step and start night time toilet training? There are a few telltale signs that they could be ready to make the leap.
Your child is waking up dry several mornings a week
If your child is successfully making it through the night without wetting the bed, that’s a great sign they could be ready for night time toilet training.
Your child is making an attempt to use the toilet or calling out
If so, this is a good sign as it shows they are gaining a greater awareness of their body and the situation at hand.
Your child says they want to try without nappies
If the child makes it clear they want to move forwards, ditch their potty training pants and feel they are ready, then this is a good sign. Obviously, use your own judgement on this, but if you share their view then commencing night time toilet training is a good idea.
It’s important not to try to force toilet training generally on your child when they are not yet ready. If your child wakes up every morning with a wet nappy, then more time needs to be taken.
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We hope this blog has been useful. At Brolly Sheets, we are committed to supporting children and parents conquer bed wetting and make real leaps forward.
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